This is a question that I have been asked without fail every single week for the past 10 months of my ‘newly’ married life.
My response has always been the same… “Marriage is great, but it’s not easy… you should get married, it’s worth it!” and I can honestly say I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Proverbs 18v22 – The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favour from the Lord. NLT
Having got married at the age of 25, my wife being just 23, we were the first amongst our friends to take the step, and on the short journey of marriage so far we have learnt so much.
Starting a blog has been on my heart for a while, but the question I have always asked myself is “What value can I add to the blogging world?”
I hope this blog helps somebody out there in this big wide world! I don’t know who or when, but as I open my life, mind and heart onto these pages, I pray that you find my words, challenging, uplifting, helpful and inspiring.
I am not professing to be a marriage guru, nor a relationship expert, however I do believe that my experiences so far in marriage and the journey towards marriage can and will help many people.
My advice at times may lean more towards guys or girls, depending on the post, but I believe that knowing this information about both genders will put you in a better position to deal with situations as and when they arise.
There are so many misconceptions surrounding marriage, especially in our knowledge rich generation, we believe that we enter the world of marriage far better equipped than previous generations. Which is true, due to the availability of books – I read countless, the internet – a never ending source of information, TV programmes, seminars and weekend courses, all these are brilliant and wonderful resources that increase our knowledge and can help us in our preparation to get married. However, no matter how much theory you take in, there is no substitute to actually getting married.
Let me use an analogy… jumping into an ice cold bath. You can read about the physiological responses of the body to cold water, you can read about surviving in arctic conditions, strategies to staying warm in cold water etc, but when you jump in you WILL feel the shock and cold of the water…FACT! (Unless you use ‘juju’ or your name is David Blaine)
Such is marriage, the reality of both the highs and the lows won’t be realised until you jump into the bath tub.
I will never forget a conversation I had with one of the senior ministers in my church; he said “Being beloveds (engaged) is like playing non-league football; marriage is like the Champion’s league”. At the time I laughed it off, I had a quiet confidence in my ability to handle the transition, although I doubted there was any difference to be experienced at all. However, just one month in and the difference was crystal clear, marriage is a whole different ball game. It doesn’t matter how long you have been with your partner, how well you know each other or how well prepared you are, the rules somehow change… they just do.
I’ll explain as much as I can, and will be as honest as I can be, the road ahead excites me, join me on the journey.
However, this is all for now, this is merely an introduction to what my future blogs will be exploring.
Feel free to ask questions and to request topics for me to blog about, I hope you enjoy the upcoming posts.
What’s it like to be young and married… hopefully you’ll gain a clearer picture as time goes on.
Lastly, I would like to thank my beautiful wife for marrying me and for allowing me to share our journey with you.